Congratulations on that!
Your write-up reminds me how social victimization sometimes leads to self-victimization that can persist even after society has evolved into more openness.
Having conscious control on one’s choices and decisions are key to reaching acceptable outcomes. Sometimes even beneficial turns life takes when outer forces are allowed to determine our direction can be unsatisfying, while lessons originating from mistakes made through our own conscious control can be fulfilling.
Happy writing, going ahead!